My colleagues suddenly called me today, asking me to come back to work urgently. My daughter isn't e…

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My colleagues suddenly called me today, asking me to come back to work urgently. My daughter isn't even a year old yet, and they're already calling me back for the third time. We don't have financial needs, thank goodness, but I'm really stressed and playing out the scenario of going back in my head, it's intense. My husband calmly replied that it would be more appropriate in a year if I wanted to, because we already have travel plans until next fall and, besides, the baby needs her mom. My mom also said it's better not to rush. Logically, I understand everything, but I do miss the hustle, colleagues, salary, and bonuses a bit 😂 At what age did you return to work after maternity leave? Share your experiences!
Are you managing to work out (especially at the gym) when you're fully occupied with work and your k…
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Vasilina
You'll have time to go out, don't rush.
But who will be with the baby?
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Katrin
With my first I was out at 3, with my second, who knows if I'll even go out 🤣
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Natalya
Vasilina With grandma and an evening nanny. But it's better to wait until at least nursery school. We really struggled with nannies for the older ones, honestly. They are very unreliable people
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Kristina
with my daughter at 2 years old, but I didn't have a choice there; with my son, I quit my job and am not working right now
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Anita
Not long ago, kids were admitted to nursery at 2 years old, and there were preferential treatment for certain groups.
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Natalya
Kristina Are you planning to work at all? I've noticed more and more moms with kids aren't working and are busy taking them to daycare, school, and activities – that's a huge amount of work too.
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Kristina
Kristina I do... but my son's constant illnesses aren't helping right now.
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Kira
I went back to work after my daughter turned 2 because life circumstances forced me to. This time, I'll aim for 3. Everything is against me going back, and I also want to spend more time with my baby.
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Vasilina
Vasilina When your child starts nursery, they'll get sick often. Usually, by age three, they'll have gone through acclimatization, which is just when you might be able to return to work. (And that's all in the best-case scenario). That's how it was for me, and I know some people had it much worse. So, you'll never know exactly how it will be for you.
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yuliya popova
I went back to work when my son was 1.5 years old. I didn't originally plan to go back so soon, but my job really needed me. They had hired someone to cover my position temporarily, but she decided to quit suddenly, so that's how it happened.
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Inna Titok
And I can't go out, I'm just getting ready and another sick day already...
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Elena
My child has been going to daycare for a year now. I stayed home with them until they were 3, and this is my 4th maternity leave. Even though my partner's salary isn't quite enough 🤣, we decided to stay home until they turn 3.
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Nadezda
Not good for the baby(
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Nadezda
Vasilina It doesn't necessarily have to start hurting
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Natalya
Nadezda I agree, I want to be with her until she's at least 2. I've never taken such a long parental leave before.
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Natalya
Inna Titok That's the age for you. Is your daughter in nursery school?
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Natalya
yuliya popova And who was your son with?
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Natalya
Kristina They all get sick at this age, I think mine were often sick too
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Natalya
Katrin Does your husband not blame you?
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Kristina
Kristina My older one didn't get sick like this..
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Marishka
Both times at 2 months.
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Natalya
Elena I haven't tried that yet, but everyone at home is encouraging me to spend more time with the baby
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Natalya
Marishka And how is it going? For you? For the kids?
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Marishka
Marishka Great! 👍
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Alena Sattarova
Still not working
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yuliya popova
yuliya popova At 1 year and 10 months, he started daycare. Before that, he was with my mom, his grandma, who is retired. But it was getting tough; my son really wore her out. When he started daycare, things got easier. He had the group, and he found it interesting. But my mom is still there to help if needed, she'd watch him when he was sick. And even now, if he gets sick, he stays with grandma.
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Elena
Elena With my older ones, I was already back at work when they were 1.7 years old. Decided that's enough! 🤣
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Vasilina
Vasilina Read what it says there: "I had this experience… no one will ever know how it will be for you." Most children get sick, and some have tantrums, and moms can't send their kids to daycare, etc., etc… lots of things.
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Natalya
yuliya popova A monument to our moms! Mine always helps me out with all our kids ❤️
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Natalya
Elena I also went back to work when my kids were 1 year and 5 months old, and it was always very financially beneficial. But now my mom also works part-time and wants to rest afterward, and it will be difficult and expensive with nannies (the more kids, the harder and more expensive it is to find a nanny).
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Natalya
Marishka I don't think I could do it at 2 months, I'm too much of a softie. I really want to be with my baby myself until they're a year old, I don't know why, but those are the thoughts in my head 🤪
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Katrin
Katrin No)
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Inna Titok
Inna Titok Walking
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Elena
Elena I'm feeling a bit better now. The kids are older, so there are no issues with kindergarten (at least regarding illnesses). All the after-school activities are within walking distance, and the schedule is 5/2 until 5 PM, so I can easily pick them up from kindergarten. Also, in terms of my life situation, I live without a civil marriage, and there's someone to provide for us. Otherwise, if I were alone, I'd have no choice but to get married. Thanks to him, I could afford not to stress about providing for the family. I'm still on sick leave now (broke my leg), but I was supposed to return to work on September 9th. However, my sick leave was extended today until October 20th. Then I'll go back to work
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Marishka
Marishka My going out didn't affect my child at all. Not the first one, not the second. Some days they were in daycare the whole day, some days just for a short time. We went to different kids' song and dance classes, I left them in the playroom while I worked out or saw clients (I'm a personal trainer and fitness instructor)... they had a very active childhood, and I didn't miss a thing. But at the same time, my needs were also met.
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