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Situation: a mother is dying; she has two children, ages 19 and 12. A blood clot detached. Death occurred on 04.03. The girl was taken to BSMP hospital, where death was confirmed. The girl is a friend of my daughter. Yesterday my brother called and suggested: we could take her to stay with us for one day; she cries a lot, but asked not to tell anyone. How long before the guardianship authorities find out about this? The brother wants to obtain guardianship, but he works informally and is not studying. There are no other relatives of the children. What are his chances?
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Tatyana Molodchinina
It's normal. There is housing, and you may be able to arrange something to earn income for a while. There, if it's guardianship specifically, there will be benefits and payments for both of you due to the loss of the breadwinner, if he studies full-time up to age 23 (or up to 22—I might be mistaken). It's not glamorous, but you can manage to get by.
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Natalya
Minimum
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Dergunova Lesya
Legally, the odds are in our favor. But everything always depends on who sits in the seats. If there are people involved, then everything will work out for him. But there are also cruel people who work there.
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Natalya
Normal people
should look for a job.
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Samsonova (Salimova) Guliya
May it be arranged officially and quickly.
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Tatyana Molodchinina
Tatyana Molodchinina I can't comment on how quickly guardianship notifications are processed. But if he truly plans to pursue guardianship, he must definitely attend the foster parents training program.
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chernika
I think there are chances. There are certain requirements, and we should find out what they are. Of course, the income must be official.
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Elena
He urgently needs to secure formal employment. Do they have housing arranged? The guardianship authorities always support preserving family ties, provided he has no harmful habits. Of course, assistance is needed; the child is under stress, and later we will need to help him settle into daily life. A lot has been placed on his shoulders, but he will cope.
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Elena
Great chances!!!
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Klyueva irina
Elena There is accommodation available: a one-room apartment.
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Anna
Does the girl have a father?
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Klyueva irina
Anna I don't have a father.
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Krivtsova Ekaterina
Great chances
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Mariya
Tatyana Molodchinina If this is your biological brother, then no.
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Tatyana Molodchinina
Anna Died?
Grandmothers, grandfathers?
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Marina
There are chances for everything!
I followed one story.
After the tragedy at Crocus City Mall, when there was a terrorist attack.
The girl there buried her brother, her mother, and her stepfather.
She was left alone with a sister, whom I can't quite recall, who was about seven years old.
And the sister herself was about twenty.
Of course they endured fire, water, and copper pipes, but she fought for guardianship.
So there are real chances.
The main thing is a huge will and taking action.
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Kosyuga Liliya
Tatyana Molodchinina Not necessarily a direct relative.
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Tatyana Molodchinina
Tatyana Molodchinina We were told it was mandatory. The group included aunts, uncles, and a grandmother—also close relatives—and this was required. The only thing is that the children were placed with a family, not in an orphanage.
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Kosyuga Liliya
Tatyana Molodchinina All of these actions by the guardianship authorities are illegitimate. There are some aunties who make up their own rules, but there is a law, and if you are well prepared, you can stand up to them. And yes, they feel they are in the right and push their agenda.
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Tatyana Molodchinina
Tatyana Molodchinina Overall, the courses are free and useful, at least for us. It seems others thought so too and completed them.
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Natalya
Tatyana Molodchinina What is wrong with forcing people to learn and forcibly stuffing them with knowledge about psychology and pedagogy, even through improper actions?
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Kosyuga Liliya
Tatyana Molodchinina There's nothing wrong with this. You just need to know your rights and responsibilities so you don't give people false information later. Again, depending on where and how these teachings are delivered, they help some people, but for others they can harm and scare them. I know of a situation where, in a training session, 3-4 'instructors' say, 'don't expect young children; all children are adults and have diagnoses, and if you do find any, they're sick and have diagnoses too' 😳🤪, so that the people who came to this training are like blind kittens, and sit in shock from all of this.
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Kosyuga Liliya
Tatyana Molodchinina This might be helpful. But teachers vary from school to school. Some explain things calmly, telling you what to expect, while others scare you with stories. And you can't always complete these courses on the first try; the psychological testing can take several months.
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Natalya
Tatyana Molodchinina She’s telling the truth, after all. So what’s wrong with the truth? What’s wrong with someone seeing reality without rose-colored glasses?
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Kosyuga Liliya
Tatyana Molodchinina What truth is he talking about?! 😳🤔 This is absolutely not true; only people who have never faced it would say that, having only heard about it from someone.
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Natalya
Tatyana Molodchinina How could healthy babies end up in the foster care system? Theoretically, where would they come from? Do they fall from the sky? Do they slip away from their mothers?
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Kosyuga Liliya
Tatyana Molodchinina A young woman, a student, gave birth; she has nowhere to turn, and people abandon her and walk away. The young mother already has other children; this baby was unplanned; she left him and walked away.
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Kosyuga Liliya
Tatyana Molodchinina Even your own children aren’t always born healthy, and that’s something to understand; a teacher shouldn’t present information in such a context.
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Natalya
Tatyana Molodchinina 1) Abortion is provided free of charge under the public healthcare system (OMS), and in the case of childbirth, child support will also be pursued.
2) How many of our young female students have the capacity for studying, but lack funds for contraception or abortion? And who, despite having the financial means and family support to stay in school, cannot raise a child with government support?
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Natalya
Tatyana Molodchinina Question about estimating probabilities and whether they can be influenced.
When planning a pregnancy, I can limit smoking, alcohol, and illegal substances, take vitamins, and get tested.
In the environment where children typically end up in the child welfare system, people don't bother worrying about this at all.
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Klyueva irina
Anna The girl's father died when she was pregnant. The grandmother died of cancer in 2023.
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Kosyuga Liliya
Tatyana Molodchinina You're thinking about it for no good reason. I've faced this before, which is why I'm talking about it. Even if I drank and smoked, that doesn't mean the child is sick or has cerebral palsy.
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