Natalya

My husband and I decided it's time to think about a second child. At first, I wasn't sure because he…

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My husband and I decided it's time to think about a second child. At first, I wasn't sure because he's barely ever around – he's in the military, and I've only just started to feel like I'm living for myself again. But then I thought, I'm not 20 anymore, so it's better to do it now. And it seems like it worked out, though it's too early to say for sure. I've started to feel scared that I won't cope, that I don't have as much energy as I did 4 years ago, and so on. There's also a lingering fear of childbirth, remembering what it was like. Plus, I'm afraid I'll neglect my daughter's attention... Did you feel this way?

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Nadezda

3 children

Was

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October 28, 2026 at 8:42 AM

Anna Klyuchevskaya

1 child

I wasn't paying attention, but somehow the thought that I won't cope creeps in during pregnancy (every time). But damn, everyone else copes, why should I be any different? Especially since I've already managed with two little ones, and this time there will only be one baby and 2 more or less independent little ones. We'll get through this, it's worth it.

You'll manage too. Kids grow up fast.

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October 28, 2026 at 8:42 AM

Tanya

2 children

Of course. Not with the second child, but with the third. The second was planned even before the wedding 😁. We thought about the third one.

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October 28, 2026 at 8:42 AM

Tatyana K

1 child

Such thoughts haven't crossed my mind

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October 28, 2026 at 8:42 AM

Elena

2 children

Your first child will naturally receive less attention, there's no way around it. You can't be in two places at once! The needs of a newborn are completely different from those of a 4-year-old. Your second baby will need you more in their first year of life.

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October 28, 2026 at 8:42 AM

Kseniya

It was, and still is

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October 28, 2026 at 8:45 AM

Katrin

1 child

I had a huge fear, my son was a handful from the maternity ward until he was 3... he was a very difficult child 😅 but my daughter was born calm, and my son helped more than anyone expected... I practically raised them alone, my husband works and sometimes leaves for 2 months... so I had to rely on myself 😅 and childbirth, it's terrifying, mine was almost the same... water broke and oxytocin, another 10 hours of hell 😅 but at least I knew what to expect, unlike with my first.

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October 28, 2026 at 8:48 AM

Antonina

1 child

I've been there. I used to make a list of my fears, problems, and solutions – and that would calm me down.

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October 28, 2026 at 9:01 AM

Natalya

1 child

It was and still is. Although the pregnancy is wanted and I convinced my husband for two years to have a second child. But as soon as it happened, doubts immediately arose - was it necessary, are we really ready, what will it be like to be a mother of two children, and so on and so forth. And there was no joy or excitement about the pregnancy then, and still isn't. There are worries and anxieties, yes. But no elation. Although it was completely different with my son... Perhaps when you know where you're going, you perceive everything differently.

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October 28, 2026 at 9:06 AM

Viktoriya

1 child

It happened. Everything was fine in the end

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October 28, 2026 at 9:33 AM

olya

1 child

There will be difficulties, but you'll know there are two of them, and they'll be each other's support for life.

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October 28, 2026 at 9:36 AM

My husband and I decided it's time to think about a second child. At first, I wasn't sure because he…

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