Stumbled upon another post about teachers being too strict with kids — they get marked down for ever…

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Stumbled upon another post about teachers being too strict with kids — they get marked down for everything, and the little ones get upset. In one story, a child got the answer right but just forgot to write it down. The teacher, not so nice, gave them a C, when she could have given a B. Now the child is really upset. Well, maybe next time they won't forget the answer and won't have to be so upset? But mom wants to hear that her child was treated unfairly: after all, they tried hard and even got upset. But are we really that tolerant when someone at work seems to have done everything right, but forgot something at the end? Classic examples would be surgeons forgetting gloves or tampons inside a patient's perfectly stitched body. So, they diagnosed everything correctly and performed the surgery excellently, but forgot to remove something at the end and stitched them up like that — is that a big deal? No, we don't like that kind of work. I personally observed a situation many years ago where a peer at work also forgot a small detail at the end: she worked in food service, served a customer — gave the order as required, processed it through the register, and gave the change, but... she automatically threw the receipt in the trash because ~99% of customers wouldn't have paid attention to it. But the customers turned out to be inspectors. What do you think, did this girl get upset when they showed her their badges? Yes, very much so — her face literally fell in that very second. And she was only 18 years old then — a baby by today's standards. And what do you think, did the fact that she tried hard and got upset matter to the inspectors? No, not really. Of course, you can always say that these are adults and these are children, but... If children aren't initially shown that they need to take their work seriously, then there won't be adults who will later consider the details. It's just that for some, it will be an unissued receipt, and for others — a wrongly prescribed medication.
Of course, these are again our everyday, behind-the-scenes work sketches. Some things never change o… This topic has been brewing for a while, especially since many are noticing how the behavior of some…
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Gavrish Oksana
What kids? There was this photographer on the forum who got offended because people were saying her photos were poorly taken. Her response was unbelievable: 'Well, I worked hard and tried my best. You owe me for saying the photos are good.' Seriously? 🧐
Another one posted a crooked, wonky cake. Also a hard worker who expects applause. 😆 She worked hard, tried her best!

It makes you wonder: if these ladies went to a surgeon and they didn't stitch them up properly, but just patched them as best they could (maybe they're inexperienced), would they also take kindly to the surgeon saying they should be grateful because they tried their best? Would they be thankful?
Or what if a car mechanic put their car together, but it wouldn't run, and the mechanic said, 'But I tried, I worked hard'?

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Viktoriya
At work, I'm the opposite – I fight against those who pity. Both professionally and as a mom. I don't need anyone to pity my child. If they earned a 2, give them a 2, otherwise how will they understand the connection between actions and consequences? If the rule is to deduct a point for two mistakes, okay, otherwise how will they understand the rules of the game? Do I feel sorry for him? Yes, terribly sorry, he has dysgraphia, he tries. Not always, though, because he also has ADHD. But no one will pity him outside of school.

On the other hand, first, these pity-givers pity, and then the parents genuinely don't understand why their child was doing normally in school, and then in 4th grade – surprise! – can't write the standardized test, and in 9th grade – surprise again! – writes the OGE mock exam poorly, needs tutors, and calls the school #crap...

But that's all different! Surgeon, standardized test, OGE) you don't understand, and we don't understand. Who knows what's going on with people's frontal lobes here.
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Pozdnyakova Yuliya
Viktoriya That makes so much sense! It seems so obvious, right? Where, from whom, and when did the idea even come from that if someone gets through their first 18 years without any deep emotional issues or trauma, they'll suddenly blossom into a competitive, stress-resilient, and well-adjusted person?
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Tatyana Rubtsova
This story had been waiting for its moment. I was working as a cashier, and I overheard two ladies in line discussing the unfairness of the world. One of them was complaining that her son's grade on a test was lowered because he didn't write down the 'right' answer. 'Can you believe how unfair these teachers are? They're marking down her little genius son, and he's fallen into depression...' When it was their turn, a mishap occurred – the receipt paper ran out halfway through printing, and the register malfunctioned simultaneously, so I couldn't print a copy. She desperately needed a copy because she was making a company purchase and needed a receipt to get reimbursed. I explained that it wasn't the end of the world and she just needed to go to the customer service desk with the stub I had printed. They could reprint a copy with all the necessary information using the register and receipt number. The shouting started – 'You don't know how to do your job!' 'Why can't you just do it right the first time?' 'Who even trained you?' I just stood there, laughing to myself, thinking, 'Yeah, right.'
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Pozdnyakova Yuliya
Tatyana Rubtsova Amazing illustration for my post)) And the most interesting thing is that the "heroes" of such stories really don't understand what's wrong with their logic: yes, their "little darling" truly can't be upset by pointing out mistakes and shortcomings, and an employee truly must do everything perfectly, regardless of circumstances)
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Agapitova Anya
I'll see how loyal this kid is to the Unified State Exam when they forget to write down the answer after solving the problem correctly.
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yuliya yakubova
I don't get it, in my world, if you mess up, you own it. Like today, my son is stomping off to his prep class with an assignment done incorrectly because he didn't read it carefully yesterday. Even though I told him to double-check. He doesn't know it yet. Oh well, he'll come home upset this evening, it happens)
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00 yyyyyyyyyyy
A lot of teachers are inadequate and don't stick to the grading system, just slapping on a '2' based on intuition. I haven't read that specific post, but in general, the situation in schools is sad, and some kids really suffer because of such educators.
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Kristina
There are specific evaluation criteria... I think they evaluate based on those... the rest is just emotions
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Agapova Inna
My oldest got a 4 yesterday instead of a 5 because he wrote "8-10=2" instead of "10-8=2" in a segment problem. Honestly, I also think it's unfair. 😀 But, okay, that's how it is. However, it's not just the kids who should be upset in the educational process, but everyone involved. For example, the teacher gets upset when kids don't participate in olympiads, when they don't bring crafts for a million events and contests, or when they don't chip in to help soldiers, etc. Frankly, I'm not too interested in that kind of upset either. 🤷
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Agapitova Anya
00 yyyyyyyyyyy Is intuition going against your criteria? Or not opening the notebook but feeling like it's a 'D'? ))) No need to go to the circus anymore, just read the statements of some moms about school.
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Anastasiya
Agapova Inna So, saying "8-10=2" instead of "10-8=2" is a specific kind of mistake, what's unfair about it?! 😂 And teachers get "upset" because, in most cases, they don't care about it themselves, but they're forced to do it anyway;)
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Olesya
I disagree specifically as a teacher, not as a parent. Yes, moms often overdo it, but a teacher shouldn't always stick to principles, especially in elementary school. You're comparing a child and an adult, but an adult has different motivation; they understand why they need to try. A child in elementary school is more often focused on the grade itself. This 'knowledge is most important' is just empty words for a second-grader. Yes, sometimes you need to show the importance of requirements, but at the same time, consider their personality. For some, a 3 or 4 motivates them to try even harder, while for others, it's worth giving a 5 in advance to instill belief in themselves, that their efforts pay off. If a child tries hard but gets a 3 or 4 despite their efforts, you can nip their desire to try in the bud: if it doesn't work out anyway, why bother? A teacher should take this into account in their work.
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Agapitova Anya
Olesya Perhaps that's why you're no longer a teacher. If a child tries, they'll find a solution and an answer. Moreover, any practicing teacher knows that a grade of '3' won't be given for the absence of the word "answer" and a number next to it. It's absolutely clear there are other criticisms as well.
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Kristina
Agapitova Anya Can't she check the diary? Does it need to be communicated separately somehow?
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Yuliya
Agapova Inna 8-10=-2, so the answer is wrong no matter what.
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Kristina
Agapitova Anya Oh wow
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Agapova Inna
Agapova Inna I'm aware that this is a mistake. The error isn't in the logic or the answer, but due to carelessness. That's why I'm saying 'so it is.'
I don't need to be told that either, nor do I need to be burdened with things that others are struggling with. Those aren't my problems, right?
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Agapova Inna
Agapova Inna That's right! He understands that the difference between the two segments is 2 cm, not minus 2 cm.
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Yuliya
Agapova Inna The decision is wrong either way
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Agapova Inna
Agapova Inna Yeah, I'm aware.
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Anastasiya
Agapova Inna So, what's unfair about it?! The mistake is specifically in the solution and the answer, and whether it was due to carelessness or something else doesn't matter to anyone. And yes, of course, the teachers' dissatisfaction shouldn't concern you either.
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